CODE OF CONDUCT
OUTLINE OF APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR
¥ Do NOT lie and do not create unnecessary drama,
¥ People with commitment issues should not be in a
committed relationship!,
¥ DonÕt get married then cheat,
¥ There are two toilet seats - put BOTH down and STOP
fighting about something so stupid!
¥ DonÕt run red lights and use a blinker so you won't
cause accidents on purpose,
¥ Put the cover on the toothpaste so it doesn't dry up,
¥ Dirty dishes have to be put in water so they don't get
crusty,
¥ DonÕt protect people who do bad things,
¥ DonÕt beat people up emotionally or physically,
¥ Say what I mean and mean what I say,
¥ Don't talk bad about people, it's not nice,
¥ Don't follow others in doing wrong.
1) Take things positively and or think positively,
2) Avoid drama and cause others to feel positive emotions
by your words or your behavior,
3) Always tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth,
being devoted, faithful and good to others (this includes your mate, others,
service people, strangers, authority figures, children, animals, and everyone
else in the world!),
4) Find the humor in others comments and in your own
mistakes, laugh as much as possible, enjoy your mateÕs company, enjoy life from
a positive perspective,
5) Feel some instinctual need to speak only positives
about people behind their back or to their face, even for no reason. Expressing
positive is always the better choice,
6) Honor others relationships,
7) Respect your relationship and honor your partner in all
your actions, the way you look at others, in your communications with others,
especially in public, around friends or family or strangers,
8) ÒDon't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuffÓ,
snap into a good mood for stupid reasons instead,
9) Encourage intimacy and closeness with others, building
bridges with others, creating lasting friendships, even with exes because the
world needs more positive interactions, positive energy, and positive
connections. You share A LOT with people you date and to shut that friendship
off when you break up is very unhealthy for humanity. It undermines
connectiveness, which we all need to be building in our society,
10) Change your myspace page and your little black cell
phone book to "in a relationship" to BUILD TRUST within your
relationship,
11) Intentionally do something good. When you make an
agreement or compromise, follow through with the actions that you discussed
with your partner and/or friends, especially when that person explains a need,
want or desire they have that you can fulfill, Òjust do it!Ó Push people's GOOD
buttons on purpose!),
12) Follow everyday common courtesies with others and your
mate.
This is a code of conduct for everyone. These are
societally accepted common courtesies that build positive dynamics and build
respect.
MY PERSONAL CODE OF CONDUCT
These are things that others have said about me often.
Sometimes these are good things and sometimes they are perceived as bad
qualities. But this is my nature and it all rolls into one, so you have to
accept that the things you most respect about a person are also the things that
may annoy you most! LOL
1) I never lie.
To me, lying is the worst thing a person can do because it
undermines the victimÕs ability to trust his or her own instincts. Build, don't
break trust.
2) I care about people genuinely and deeply. People say
this about me all the time. I am sincere, more than most people don't even
think to be. People in my life have told me this.
I want my happy future with the plans that I pray for and
those who know me know my goals and what I want more than anything.
3) When I say something, I say it EXACTLY and as CLEARLY
as I can possibly think to say it. I do not beat around the bush or put hidden
guru prophet coded information into what I say. I say it like it is. I say what
I mean and I mean what I say. I am extremely direct. This is one of my best and
worst qualities and again, people have often commented to me that this is how I
am.
I am sorry that misunderstandings ever happen, but this is
my personal guarantee that I am a bridge builder with the best of intentions,
even when I make mistakes.
4) In a relationship, the two people are a UNIFIED TEAM,
always making efforts to enhance each otherÕs lives through constructive uses
of time.
5) I am 100% faithful and devoted to the one I am with. I
have complete respect and consideration for my partner and show others that I
am committed to him, no matter what the circumstances, because as long as we
are together, he is ALL I need and desire, as it should be perceived by all
others, to build up my partner's self-esteem and to create only positive
experiences between us.
6) I compliment and complement others with my words,
expressions and actions.
7) I read lots of books, including the bible, and listen
to, watch and attend workshops and educational seminars on personal improvement
to create healthier relationships with everyone I know and to build a healthier
personal life.
8) I work very, very hard and I work much more than I
play. I play after the work is done. When I do play, I have a lot of fun, but I
am still respected because I behave properly and in a manner I am proud of all
the time.
9) I am very flexible and I try to accommodate others more
than myself, except in areas that are more important to me than to the other
person. For example, I enjoy all different types of music and most other people
really prefer their favorite, so I allow others to choose the radio station in
the car. This frees up a mulligan for me to be able to get my way on some other
area that is more important to me than it is to that other person.
10) I laugh when I am happy. I cry when I am sad. I give
when others need me and not just when it is convenient for them. I do the right
thing just because it is the right thing to do. I say what I mean and mean what
I say. I follow up my words with actions. Our words and actions are all we have
to establish our character and I value the opinion of my character greatly. I
try to pay my bills. I do my best with the life that I am living. I love deeply
and I give more than I expect in return.
11) I accept others as they are. I try to inflate others
rather than deflating them, through my words, expressions and actions. It is my
objective in friendships and relationships to enhance each other's lives. If I
meet someone who does not live by the same code of conduct I choose to live by,
then I choose NOT to hang around with that person so that I will not get hurt
by their behaviors, rather than trying to change the other person to conform to
my way of thinking. I learned the hard way that no matter who is right, there
is no positive gained by waiting for the other person to catch up! Trying to
convince another person to treat you how you feel you deserve to be treated
only creates negative dynamics and drama. If someone does not treat me well, I
learned that I have to just leave.
12) I have a long list of skills I bring to the table. I
like and respect myself, and the people I choose to have in my life. I have
very high moral standards that I follow for myself personally. I live and
behave as I want to be treated by others.
This is the rulebook I created for myself from my experiences, classes and workshops that I have participated in, and things I taught myself from reading, watching TV, movies, and talking to and watching other people, and from my own life experiences. I choose not to just be a human being, but a higher being!